[excerpt from the upcoming book - The End of the Fairy-Tale Bride: How Princess Diana Exposed the 'Princess Myth' for All Women]
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Wedding celebrations were the time for women to shine in these villages and communities, taking over the precious nuptial proceedings to guide and prepare the next young woman for marriage and instill her goddess legacy. And in so doing, the women were reminded of their own goddess nature.
The Language of the Goddess, a “cosmic Creatrix, life and birth giver.” For thousands of years, honoring the goddess, according to mythologist and writer Joseph Campbell, was a “primordial attempt on humanity’s part to understand and live in harmony with the beauty and wonder of Creation.” Therefore it is no surprise that brides were the representation of the goddess in these world cultures.
Most modern cultures may not worship a goddess, but they do continue to be enchanted with the “goddess-like” image of the bride. Is that because on some deep level, she is a reminder of that harmony we still strive for? In her feminine essence, does she represent the continuity of life, love, and all that our hearts hold dear?
I’ve worked with thousands of brides of all ages in my career and I find that a woman’s intuition is heightened during her time as a bride. And her intuition expands exponentially the more she opens to the intimacy of her bridal rite-of-passage. A bride steps into a spotlight of inner and outer examination and, if she is willing to explore this introspective wellspring of wisdom and foresight bubbling up, her choices become easy and inspired—no matter if it’s about her dress, her ceremony or her partner! When she tunes into her intuitive connections from her little girl dreams, or her goddess nudges, or her inspirations on a soul level, a bride easily fulfills these stirrings of the heart. I had brides come to my former bridal art-to-wear store in Atlanta and be lead to “the” dress immediately. You could see in her body language, how her face lit up, how some glow just poured from her that this was the one—even if she began to doubt herself, or doubt that life could truly be this easy.
The Diana Chronicles, Tina Brown speaks about “The Dress” in a language that women understand. Left to her own devices to choose her gown designers (the team of Elizabeth and David Emanuel for their romantic inspirations) and then “in those secretive visits for fittings…[where] she always knew exactly what she was looking for,” Diana created the “fulfillment of her Princess fantasy.” She allowed her intuitive juices to flow! It was as though Diana knew the impact that not only her appearance would make on her wedding day, but she also had a sense of the message that this “looking like goddess” image would send to the world regarding her life purpose: to forge a heart-opening pathway to return the nurturing, compassionate, female aspects to the world. And she needed to be a true “princess bride” to get the world’s attention and fulfill this goddess destiny.
[Other excerpts from "The Goddess Bride" chapter of The End of the Fairy-Tale Bride upcoming book can be found by clicking on "The Goddess Bride" in the Labels list below.]