[excerpt from the upcoming book - The End of the Fairy-Tale Bride: How Princess Diana Exposed the 'Princess Myth' for All Women]
We are at the end of the fairy-tale bride. The end of the belief that a woman needs to be rescued and that a man’s job is to come to the rescue. Although we may continue to be enchanted by folktales of earlier times featuring, as David Cohen in Circle of Life calls, “marriageable maidens with exquisite desirability and mortal men with the chivalrous urge to protect their honor,” this damsel and knight archetype hardly serves the deeper desires of women and men for happy and fulfilling lives.
The fairy tale always ends at the “point of rescue,” notes author Dr. Caroline Myss in an article in the New Age Journal. “Indeed the shadow side of this fairy tale is that the woman is taken from one form of containment—her maiden palace—to yet another form of containment—the knight’s palace.” Buying into this damsel and knight notion or the fairy princess myth still imbedded in today’s culture usually results in a rather fractured fairy tale—limiting and disempowering for all involved.
[Other excerpts from the "End of the Myth" chapter of The End of the Fairy-Tale Bride upcoming book can be found by clicking on End of the Myth in the Labels list.]