June 17, 2011

{The Honey Month} Part Four: "To Love Anew"


[excerpt from the upcoming book, The End of the Fairy-Tale Bride: Princess Diana, the 'Princess Myth' & a Royal Legacy for All Women]

More and more couples live together before marriage but still the percentage of married couples staying together is less according to a report in Time magazine in November 2010. So it must be something else that warms particular couples to draw the best out of themselves and of each other—and stay together.

After closing my bridal art-to-wear store in Atlanta at the end of 1999, I was privileged to travel to various parts of the world on what I called my “soul journeys” over the next five or so years. Wherever I traveled, I was curious about the sense of community and the nature of relationships that existed in the towns and villages I visited. I noticed relationships between men and women—and couples of all stripes—as well as among family members and women with other women. And I discovered a great deal about a culture when I asked about their wedding and marriage customs.


Community of Damanhur in Italy

In 2004 when I visited the metaphysical community of Damanhur in northern Italy at the foothills of the Italian Alps near the mystical city of Turino, I was drawn into their generous and open-hearted energy. The people who have settled there from all over the world seem to be connected in a bold, yet intimate way. They call on both ancient and modern practices in the arts and sciences for their projects to make the world a healthier and more vibrant place to live. I attended meditation and art workshops, lectures on the ancient civilizations of Atlantis (which were considered technologically advanced and spiritually aware cultures), and experienced various ancient healing modalities. I loved it.

Inside one of the temples in Damanhur
In my queries about marriage and relationships in ancient Atlantis (which had many different civilizations during its long history—read Plato for more details!), I found that there were no “marriages” as we know today, at least in the last era of its culture which I understand ended ten to fifteen thousand years ago. However, according to Frank Joseph’s book, Edgar Cayce’s Atlantis and Lemuria: The Lost Civilizations in the Light of Modern Discoveries, “if you wanted to commit yourself to a certain person, a ceremony of unity was undertaken by the couple with no legal binding or enforcement on this arrangement. The union was on a purely spiritual basis; yet at the same time, sex was an important part of life” with connection to love and spirituality always being part of the equation. The philosophy from this era of Atlantis is that the body is respected as the “temple of the soul.”

In our modern, materialistic world where attention is on the body as a physical thing, we are disconnected from our spiritual being, living inside a busy, noisy mind that dictates our actions and emotions. I believe that we can learn something from the essence of a philosophy that honors the divinity and holistic nature of mind, body and spirit. Whether we believe this ancient civilization existed or not, whether it’s all a “fairy tale” or not, there’s something to learn from the “possibility” of relatedness this offers.~

[Other excerpts from the "The Honey Month" chapter of the upcoming book, The End of the Fairy-Tale Bride, will be posted soon...including more about the mystical community of Damanhur nestled in the Italian Alps and the wedding I came upon there!]

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