August 28, 2011

{Book's Prologue} Part Six: "Becoming an Archetype"

[This is the sixth and final excerpt of the Prologue, "Front Row to a Royal Wedding," from my upcoming book, The End of the Fairy-Tale Bride. Posting the book's prologue is to celebrate the 30th anniversary of Diana & Charles' archetypal wedding.]

Like other mere mortals, Diana was one of those illuminated personalities who take the world stage and hold our attention with a charismatic allure, becoming an icon of the time. Whether these personalities become iconic by living into a softened and wiser old age or by dying an early death, their dynamic appeal sometimes even inspires a mythological language. Realizing “a legend that never dies” as Derek Lamar explains in his article “Diana… We Hardly Knew Ya’,” names and words from their life enter the cultural lingo to describe and define this new awareness and way of being.

This kind of legacy peaks my curiosity. The legacy of a person whose life becomes bigger than their life alone: they seem to be present on Earth as a life force to break open a new way of thinking, even affecting a paradigm shift in consciousness. Without being aware, the person literally gives their life as an example for us to learn what human behaviors and patterns support either our superficial “small self” or those traits which serve our more wise “big Self.” And sometimes what we learn from their life proves opposite of what they actually got to experience.

(As it was explained to me by my teachers, I write “big Self”—our more grounded, deeper, “in our bodies” self—with a capital “S” as in “being closer to Spirit”; and I write “small self”—our ego-driven, fearful, “in our minds” self—with a small “s” because, well, we’re playing small!)

Living out her life on a world stage put the spotlight not only on Diana’s weaknesses and strengths, but those of all women. Some call her life a sacrifice; I call it a divine destiny. And I believe the message of that life is about honoring our own life by learning to love ourselves just the way we are and be willing to grow into the woman that our wiser self knows we can become.

Astrologer Steffan G. Vanel, author of a 2005 book on Diana, stated in Oracle 20/20 magazine: “…there is no doubt that there was something archetypal in our collective experience of Diana, something involving a Princess, being royal, and thus something elevated or potentially attuned to higher spiritual forces, with divine feminine qualities.”

I believe that Princess Diana’s life put attention on the universal search for deep connection with another; a yearning to be deeply related and beloved. I believe that her marriage can be seen as “the end of the fairy-tale bride,” a phenomenon that lays the groundwork for a new archetype of how men and women enter relationships.

William & Kate in California, July 2011
 We already see results of her influence in the more authentic lives her ex-husband and two sons are living, including Charles’ and William’s relationships with their wives.

There is no accident that Diana’s death came at the beginning of The Aquarian Age which brings with it the feminine principle of relatedness and cooperation. “Our imbalance as humans,” Derek Lamar wrote, “is coming to a close as we begin to realize ‘Oneness.’ Princess Diana expresses the love, care, and nurturing aspects of true femaleness which mankind intuitively was attracted to, as a magnet has a force which pulls until there is contact (Oneness).”

Lamar speaks about Diana’s healing force in her expression of femaleness and how “our sense of loss was also finding something that we didn’t know was there…the female aspect within ourselves.” This nurturing, more compassionate female dimension has been ‘missing in action’ for the world as a whole, as well as within men and women individually. Her death became a universal recognition of “what we thought we lost was our moment of finding ourselves.”

No wonder that young, feminine, vulnerable, splendidly beautiful bride drew us into her world so profoundly, capturing something of our hearts to make sure that we paid close attention so not to miss the deeper messages oozing through the cracks. Looking beyond the glitter, beyond the drama and angst, beyond the soap opera-like life style—even beyond the bold acts of hands-on kindness—we see into the background of what was being acted out. And there, what was really happening over Diana’s short lifetime comes out of the shadows.

What if we used Diana’s life, not how she lived it, but the immense energy of her life’s impact—that became undeniable at her death—to now inspire couples worldwide to choose from their wise, authentic self and build empowering, nurturing relationships?

William & Kate in Canada, July 2011
 Relationships where, no matter your background or family traditions or personal fears, you are encouraged to open your heart to give and receive unconditional love? What if this bigger picture of Diana’s life—looking beyond the story, the illusion, the fairy tale into the deep spirit of her life—inspired establishing a platform for the possibility of, as author Gary Zukov calls, “spiritual partnerships”? What if?

[This is the final part of the Prologue of The End of the Fairy-Tale Bride. To see all the excerpts from the book's Prologue, click on "Prologue" in the Labels list below.]

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