September 21, 2012

{Protecting Love}

[This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, The End of the Fairy-Tale Bride. Considering the recent "topless sunbathing scandal" involving the intrusive press and the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge, I added the last two paragraphs below to my exisiting text in the third chapter.]
“Whatever view you take of her conduct,” Allison Pearson wrote about Diana in the Telegraph a few days before William and Kate’s wedding, “the Princess’s love can be seen as a force field which insulated her boys from royal hauteur and schooled them to be better husbands than the one she had. ‘I put it to William,’ Diana told Martin Bashir in that notorious Panorama interview, ‘that, if you find someone you love in life you must hang onto it and look after it, and if you were lucky enough to find someone who loved you then one must protect it.’”

And protect Kate he will. William’s friends say his “dominant, driving characteristic” is protectiveness. So as the couple “emerge[s] into the merciless adoration of global celebrity,” in the words of Pearson, “Diana’s son will never allow [the press] do to his wife what they did to his mother.” How much Diana was manipulated by or manipulated the press herself is up for question, but clearly it will be different for Kate.

Even in light of the “topless sunbathing scandal” in September 2012—where a photographer with a very long lens intruded on the royal couple’s private vacation—it was Prince William who probably took the publication of revealing photos harder than the exposed Kate. (How could it not be an extraordinarily sensitive issue for him after his mother's death?)
However, to truly feel “protected,” one must feel secure within; secure in knowing that no intrusion from “out there” can take away your own truth, dignity or grounded sense of self—unless you let it. I believe William’s Kate has that inner dignity down pat; and her strength buoys his. As the power of unconditional love shields them, as it can do for all of us, it deepens its own foundation. Can we really “protect” love or can we only diminish or strengthen it? ~

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